The de-masculinisation of men

Throughout the advertising world there are several target audiences: children, mum’s, busy working families and animal lovers. But one thing remains the same in most cases – you will find a very, very skewed version of manhood displayed in these advertisements and the wider film industry. There has been, over the last 15 years, a push to slip males into the category of “emotional, comedic, bumbling dudes who cannot take care of themselves,” who are wimpy, incapable of performing their husbandly duties; they cannot handle paperwork, kids, conversation, or basic human functions, and they certainly cannot lead a home as the solid and consistent strength that he needs to be in order for a home to work properly.


This…is a male


An overstatement? No. Just use your mind for a moment whilst you are watching television at how men are portrayed in the media of all forms by newscasters, advertising agencies, film producers and product salespeople and you will find that the vast majority of men are portrayed in this derogatory, slapstick manner. Especially when the advertisement is for women. One prime example (amongst thousands I’ve seen) for this is for GJ Gardner Homes ad this year where a husband is supposed to be doing the mowing as the announcer pronounces – but instead he is leaping about with his children in the sprinkler whilst his disgusted wife shakes her head and looks on in disbelief. This isn’t an anomaly. Another is the “Holden Trax” advertisement shown during last seasons X Factor where the trendy, gorgeous girlfriend waits elegantly in the cafe whilst the late, thoughtless and risk taking boyfriend makes his way through the city using GPS to find her. He is late. She is not. The saga continues into nappy ads, and paint ads, loan ads (savings and loans goofy husband) the “everyday heroes” that stroll comedically through the streets with sunnies on with their baby carriers. We are persistently the butt of jokes for marketing women everywhere – attempting to throw mud in the faces of men who really actually want to be a leader – a family man and a real hero for his kids, wife and an ambassador for Christ as well. This is shoved under the rug and replaced by a lunatic overgrown child who’s hellbent on walking on eggshells at home otherwise he’s outside with the dog (think “Girls Night In” Cancer fund-raising ads)

Repeating something makes it ok

There’s an ad for every product I can think of that has goofy men trying to do housework, dating, holding conversation, fix things, do cleaning or simply do something nice for their wives that completely falls flat and fails, and leaves some poor, working wife helpless, upset and annoyed with their goofy husband. This is not a neutral topic, despite the conversations I’ve read on forums and big newspaper articles – this is a serious matter. If the media pushes this stereotype into brains and cultural thinking for long enough, it conditions the women watching to believe that their dumb, incapable and hapless husband will always be a goofy, no-hoping brat who cannot think for himself. It will reinforce the water cooler conversation about how awfully incapable their husbands are at absolutely everything, and weakens men’s ability to confidently lead their family as a strength and presence in the home that only a father and husband can offer. And this isn’t good for men or women.

The Outcome

It breeds contempt for the failings of men in their homes, and it breeds equal contempt for those men themselves who know they fail in doing everything they can for their wives who are actually trying. Girls: we already know we make a million mistakes daily! That’s why Christ has bled and died for the forgiveness for our sins – so that we can forgive others for their mistakes and not hold contempt for them: including our spouses through the power of the Holy Spirit. One of the biggest problems in marriage can be restraining from pointing out mistakes and acting like a “behaviour police” for improving spouses.

Now, this kind of stereotyping is often left unchecked. Men are unequivocally bashed numerous times over the head verbally for making one slip up comment such as “women should do the dishes,” or, “I go to work and my wife looks after the kids,” but if a woman blames her husband for her failing dream lifestyle, inability to provide for a Jeep Cherokee, luxury holiday and has a slightly less than ripped body – nobody makes a fuss. It’s exactly the same tactic used by the homosexual lobby when speaking about traditional marriage. This is unequally balanced grilling. The major newspapers all call it “neutral” advertising because the “market” for this kind of stuff is women, and the marketers themselves are women, so they constantly barrage us with images of beer drinking fools playing practical jokes on each other, wimpy men who bow to their spouses every word (think M & M’s commercial), or on the other end of the spectrum: angry drunkards who constantly hit their wives in plain sight of the public. There’s barely any in between marketing of men, where they are shown to be committed to their wives, working hard for their pay and decently treat their spouses and children and even perform their cleaning duties as best as possible consistently. Nope. That’s unfortunately lame advertising. And doesn’t appeal to women. At least not as long as the marketers tell us it doesn’t.

In retrospect, there have been some incredibly daft examples of bad marketing of products that guilt trip women into buying them to please their picky husbands during the 1950’s and 1960’s coffee ads, for example, where the husband complains about the wife’s coffee-making each time, until she changes brand), which probably served as a biased example of sexist marketing because of the working culture at the time. But having  said that, the backlash from this sexist advertising has produced a generation of ads that “demasculise” men and insult them to the point of ensuring their place in culture as a bumbling, wimpy, weak and incapable sex that cannot lead a home, raise a family well, train their children to become men and women of character and leave a lasting legacy of good works that impacted generations for Christ (just to be specific). With all of the constant talk of improving men’s health that goes around, it’s a real surprise that advertising hasn’t changed in regards to man bashing, because this eventually weaves its way into their psyche and attitude if they soak up what they’re watching for long enough.


Dominic Utton for the Telegraph news UK in March of 2014 had this to say in regards to changing advertising to reverse the “silly male” trend:

“Now imagine these adverts with roles reversed – where a mother is being ridiculed by her husband and ignored by her children. Where a nation is being encouraged to laugh at the ridiculous, pathetic woman. You can’t, can you? Of course not – because such an ad would never be made. It would be outrageously sexist.” (The Telegraph, 2014 “Why are men on TV always fools?” Viewed October 22 2016 <;.)

A website called “stupid white man commercials” details many, many examples of outrageously sexist ads that bash male forgetfulness, thought patterns, behaviour and mannerisms, all for fun. To sell things. And they do a great job of telling people to boycott products and services that market in this manner. But I’m not writing this to politically change things or spark a war. It’s about realising that biblical manhood is under attack in the church in the first place from evangelical feminism, which is a result of blending secular feminism with the church’s view on the Biblical roles of men and women in society, the home and church. This is an offshoot of having the “I am woman – hear me roar” attitude of the world bleed into advertising and subtly but surely whittle away the shreds of male leadership left in our culture till there’s an empty shell left. Instead of promoting strong leadership, firm discipline, loving wives with consistent faithfulness and servant-hood.

Michelle Lesley, a Christian blogger, author and women’s discipleship leader says in her blog post “Feminist Infiltration and the Emasculation of Christian Men” that:

    “Turn on any television show, watch a commercial, go to the movies, read the news, scroll through your social media feed, and examine the way men are generally viewed, spoken of, and being treated by others.
If a female character on a TV show slaps her husband or punches him in the arm, we laugh or sympathise with her anger, depending on the scenario, but if the roles were reversed we’d call the same behaviour from a man abuse.
Men are frequently portrayed as bumbling incompetents as fathers, husbands, and employees, with a heroine mum, wife, or co-worker stepping in to save the day.
We see women wearing the pants in the family and treating their husbands like an extra child, and we see men who respond in kind: acting like children, obeying their wives’ commands, and, often, indulging in hours of childish pastimes, like video games, instead of working hard and caring for their families.
It’s not Father Knows Best any more. It’s Father’s a Moronic Buffoon to Kick Around.
And what’s alarming is that these attitudes have been creeping into the church for years.
Just as women rebelled against the law and social conventions to gain equality with men, “Christian” women now rebel against Scripture by becoming pastors and instructing and holding authority over men in the church. (In fact, this has been going on so long that many in the next generation aren’t even aware that the Bible prohibits this.)”

This hits the point home regarding the breadth and length of the destruction that ensues when feminism creeps into the church, and this only happens when women latch onto the world’s thinking regarding the role of men and women in marriage and then carry it into church positions and areas where there are clear scriptural distinctives.


What’s the solution to all of this? It’s to put aside sinful attitude towards men, and swallow pride in being more organised, calculating, quick, smarter and talented than they are and simply celebrating the differences. There’s no harm in comedy – I get that, but it doesn’t have to be steamrolling an entire gender for pure comedic relief purely as a result of a backlash against sexist 1950’s ads about men wanting coffee to taste better. There’s a higher ground here, and it’s to simply laugh at the differences, and celebrate those strengths in men that we so desperately need to celebrate for our children’s sakes. They look up to heroes, so why not put those on display for viewing eyes?

In Christ

Luke Goddard






Why are we being punched in a corner?

Boxing gloves: One fighter with them, one without

I’ve decided to name this post “why are we being punched in a corner” because of the pugilist nature of the same-sex marriage proponents that permeates every backlash, article, argument and debate style of every single public supporter of same sex marriage in mainstream media. How does this work? Well, it begins by displaying a picture of someone defending man-woman marriage who clearly has their work cut out for them. They say something that they think is goofy and in need of a rebuttal, so they engage in ad hominem attacks on the supporter without hesitation. One such example was on today’s episode of “Studio 10” the progressive, liberal, hugely unfunny Australian news and entertainment  program directed at the morning daytime TV crowd who has to be woken up with a pod coffee machine, buys daytime TV products and pretends that they’re defending just causes by ranting on about the same things the TV is. But I digress..


Eric Abetz, Senate MP

The guest on the panel was a comedian named Joel Creasey, who is homosexual, and he was lamenting the fact that a liberal senator called Eric Abetz had stated, regarding those “coming out” :

“Ever thought why there is no celebration for those that decide to go from the homosexual to heterosexual lifestyle? Are they not honest? Are they not coming out as well? And that is just one of the examples of the one-way traffic and bias from the media.”, “Eric Abetz wants people who switch from gay to straight to be ‘celebrated and honoured,”
viewed October 15th 2016 <;.


Joel Creasey. Conveniently displaying the very attitude of the entire conversation I’ve just mentioned

This comment deserves some pausing thought. Why do we only celebrate homosexuals jumping out of their closet? Why isn’t there an equal coverage of stories of people redeemed from the sinful choice of a homosexual lifestyle into the heterosexual lifestyle? Why do we not write to the television executives about the plain bias against heterosexual marriage that they flippantly throw at us? Because it is the enemies (Satan’s) plan to rob everyone with a television of their right to think for themselves. The swamping and mass production of homosexuals in sitcoms, advertisements, movies, dramas, public sector and Hollywood scene has programmed the culture to believe that the tidal wave of homosexual lobbyists and their passionate followers is inevitable – we have to wear out and give in. And do it disgracefully by being maligned publicly by pro same-sex marriage activists. The man in the TV piece above didn’t rationally, systematically destroy the argument senator Abetz was making – he simply called him a “douche-bag” and “hateful” for “making young homosexual people commit suicide.” His radical claim that “people like you have blood on your hands,” was the tipping point for me. I have absolutely no doubts that the statistics regarding suicide rates for homosexuals have absolutely nothing to do with the defense of man-woman marriage, but are a result of the confusion, shame, guilt and outright torture of living with a sexual frustration that is impossible to control and comprehend fully without the converting power of the Holy Spirit and a conversion of the heart to desire good things given by God Himself. All sin is harmful, including any sexual sin, and these suicides are a result of the effects of such a sin as homosexuality playing havoc with the mind of the person who is struggling with that attraction.

His (Joel’s) line of argument was to rip apart the notion that gay marriage is even debatable, then lumped him (Eric) into the same category as a crazed lunatic who wants people to die, then insulted him personally. Wow. The integrity. What baffled me was that after this public, horrendous tirade the presenter sitting next to him, Jessica Rowe, managed to get some words in and stated, “you’re such a beautiful, passionate, wonderful human being. You really are.” And then cheering ensued. Cheering for slandering someone personally, using as hominem insults and bullying, then claiming that someone who simply defends man-woman marriage is “causing suicides” and has “blood on their hands.” And is an “idiot”… I’ve seen more intelligent arguments in the school yard over juice boxes than this.

My love for God’s beautiful natural design for marriage and my defense of it has been reduced down to a hate filled diatribe against homosexuals that makes them automatically want to end their lives. End of argument. And I’m called names in the meantime as a “hater” and “bigot” and someone who is hostile towards people without even being given the light of day to respond thoughtfully. But this is the age we live in, where anybody who is a Christian or has a position of conscience on an issue such as gay “marriage” can, without retribution, be labelled childish names by grown adults who are so passionate that they have forgotten grammar, politeness, rationality and the basic fundamentals of presenting a thesis for their position. Passion wins over rational thought any day apparently!

May we continue to defend God’s timeless, perfect ideal of man-woman marriage for life for the sanctity of raising children; children having both a Mum and a Dad, and the beautiful roles they both play in raising a healthy, strong, faithful child that has a well-balanced compassionate, enduring, secure, discerning and broad outlook on life through experiencing both male and female parenting in their fullest form.

Society literally depends on Christians speaking the truth.

In Christ



The Gritty

Some of us in church have some crazy ideas – like that we should sit down when singing… or that children’s church is wrong, or that baptising babies is ok, or that the doctrine of the election is actually true… But in all of this denominational hoopla (and there is a TONNE of it) there are, in fact, fundamentals that never change. Today in our Baptist Fellowship meeting in session two we had a passionate missionary preaching on the scripture in 1 Corinthians 15 – Always abounding in the work of the Lord; and boy did he hit some home runs. He mentioned at large the fact that there are particular books, evangelists, teachers and theologians that we all listen to and promote, yet divisions that we cause with our nitpicky theological differences that the world mocks and the devil laughs at wringing his hands. Now, don’t get me wrong – like Jude in scripture I’m always up for defending the gospel, marking false teachers that are well-known and on the rise, and promoting biblical discernment as much as I can, but underneath all of that there was a bigger picture this morning – that lost people are dying and going to hell, and that we are Christ’s ambassadors bringing the message of repentance and forgiveness in Jesus name! And that it’s the blood of Christ spilled for those sinners that we are to preach. Christ crucified was the cry this morning. Those two words alone are enough to get you jumping out of your slumber if you’re ever in one!


Gospel proclaimed

The biblical gospel as a fundamental truth was preached, loudly proclaimed and defended this morning, but it also got personal with the admonition to not get caught up in twenty million side issues that aren’t really important hills to die on – there’s a great commission too big and great to neglect, and people are dying at a rate of something like 356 youth per day in Australia. 15 of these I have just found are dead from alcohol poisoning here. So it’s crucial that we get off our horses, start getting in the fight and winning souls biblically for Christ! Now, this involves different people with different gifts reaching different people. I, for one, am not going to be the best chap to be sent to building sites, gyms and golf courses to do this – because I’m not sporty, avoid exercise and generally am a clean, nerdy computer-y type of guy – but in our own spheres of influence we certainly can reach people. I, for one, have seen many listen to me whilst chatting with them at work about Jesus and His sacrifice when the question of “religion” comes up, or the terrorism sweeping Europe, the US and partly in Australia of late. This is my thing – using apologetics and scripture to promote Jesus and the Faith to them, without compromise. I love doing it. But in the right context where I’m able to reach people.



At the end of today I had a renewed passion to launch into a new ministry I’ve been praying about, a passion to continually use gospel tracts wherever I can as a presentation of the gospel to those who are dying, and an urgency again about defending and proclaiming the precious truths of repentance and faith, Christ alone, scripture alone, grace alone through faith alone, and refuting false teachings with good research behind my propositions. This is the wonder of joining in a conference geared towards believers who want to defend the truth, who are seeking righteousness, and who are evangelistic. What a day

In Christ


The Good Samaritan – why do we get it wrong?

Reading ourselves into everything

We have a habit, when reading the Bible, to try to be a superhero in the story. Whether it’s being David slaying giants, being as faithful as Noah, being as brave as Daniel entering a den of lions, or being as strong as Nehemiah building a “big vision” for his people to build a giant wall. In parables we have a tendency to find ourselves in the heroes boots also. Why do we do this? Because we love to think really, really highly of ourselves, especially in the light of how great we’ve done on a particular day helping people, or treating everyone well.

We try to find the absolute greatest character in the scriptures, and make them exactly like us. Even if the character is a type of Christ – like David, and Samson, and Daniel, and Noah… and every other character in scripture! We are obsessed with how great we are. And have been taught by evangelicals for years and years and years that as kids we need to aspire to be like Samson, Jonah, Esther, Mary, Joseph, Paul and Peter… yet Jesus makes it so plainly clear that in every Bible story there is a marker that points an arrow right to Jesus – regardless of the fact that we might think we are as great as Paul or Peter.


This interpretation of scripture that occurs time and again in the seeker sensitive movement and Pentecostalism is called Narcissistic Eisegesis – where we read ourselves into every passage somehow, as if scripture was written to be a testimony about principles to help us as westerners live a more exciting, fulfilling, dreamy, cruisy, drama-free life. Scripture testifies of Jesus. The entire book screams redemption right from Adam and Eve eating of the forbidden fruit to Noah’s escape of the flood to the 2 criminals dying next to Christ on the cross – scripture points to a saviour coming who defeats sin and death by dying as our substitute, making us children of God by washing us in His blood clean. It’s not a tale of a brave, focused, determined and resourceful people rightly following God and pulling up their bootstraps doing God’s will and fulfilling dreams – its way, way more of the opposite! In fact, the Holy Spirit’s job, once we as sinners become adopted by repentance and faith – is to point us to Jesus! We continually preach, teach and write about 7 principles to get this, 5 steps to make this happen, 20 reasons why we aren’t blessed enough, when we should have been preaching Christ and Him crucified for our sins on our behalf! We are obsessed with ourselves. Like one enormous selfie that’s plastered worldwide we want our pockets lined by God, our dreams fulfilled, our sex lives perfect, our wives to perfectly fit our ideals and our own egos to remain intact whilst we attend church – yet scripture continuously points out our need for redemption.


We should, in every Bible passage, find the Christ-centred approach. This means doing some re-wiring of our theology if we’ve been brought up on a steady diet of fad evangelism, Jabez prayers, Purpose-driven theology and word faith practices. It takes courage to break free from that devillish talk and bow under the reality of God’s word as it is – a book solely about Christ and Him alone! This approach has been used for millennia by church fathers, pastors, preachers and missionaries, yet the modern seeker sensitive church has hijacked scripture and turned it into a manual on how to have everything we’ve ever dreamed of in our carnal minds right now. This is a grave mistake, and only reading scripture, repenting of the false theology and interpretation and seeking Jesus in the Bible can assist in this area. Doctrinal error begins with a faulty Christology (study of Jesus) a false anthropology (sinfulness of man etc) or a false eschatology (that we are fully redeemed in heaven, not here). If any of these are defective, start digging into the scriptures and be free!

Good Samaritan – us or Jesus?

Jesus actually tells us the interpretation of His own parables, but we’ve forgotten this. In the Good Samaritan parable in Luke 10v 30-37 Jesus is approached by a teacher of the Mosaic law wanting to gain eternal life, and the answer is in fact a scathing rebuke of his inept ability to keep this law perfectly, like the good Samaritan does. There are striking similarities between the Samaritan man and Jesus, including where he walks from (Jerusalem to Jericho) to get to the bleeding civilian, his treatment of the man in binding his wounds and even extending further grace for recovery from his own bank account, and his outcast hero in the story totally being a rejected class of person as Jesus was on this earth – forsaken and crucified by His own. This parable takes some getting used to if we are to interpret it through a deeper, Christ-centred lens, but the beautiful picture of the utter helplessness of the man being assisted, the heroic, self-sacrificial love of the Samaritan, the tender care and the complete foolishness of the Samaritan assisting the stranger even without fully getting to know his secrets, sins and self-righteousness first. It all points to Jesus Christ – the rejected Saviour of the world who came to die for people who have outright rejected Him from birth, who are totally incapable of renewing themselves and becoming sinless. This is all done by Christ on the cross. Our salvation is a total work of the rescuer, and nothing at all is accomplished or able to be boasted in by the bloodied, beaten sinner in the gutter.

Joseph Tkach of Grace Community International has a concise, brilliant take on this story, and comments on the way this story unfolds for the teacher of the law in this way:

    “How could anyone be expected to live up to the standard of the Samaritan in this story? If that is what God expects, even the meticulous lawyer was doomed. Jesus was showing that humans cannot meet the perfect requirements of the law. Even those who dedicate themselves to it fall short. Jesus is the only one to fulfil the law in its deepest intent. Jesus is the Good Samaritan.”

Our typical take on this story is to pour the burden of helping our neighbours perfectly onto the reader – making them guilty for not paying the full price for every persons medical care we see injured, or helping out every accident victim we coma across, or our ghastly inability to even assist someone in a less serious situation at work. All of this creates a legalistic burden that we as sinners are totally incapable of holding, yet time and again this sermon is preached anew in church as a consistent reminder that we fall short – which is actually the point of the story – but should be taken a step further – that Jesus is the one who never leaves anyone utterly helpless in sin alone to die eternally if they realise their plight. That Christ renders salvation to those who identify as a bleeding, helpless, completely dead sinner with no hope but someone who is able to show mercy through their own will to save and redeem and pay the price. This is what Jesus Christ did on the cross, yet we as preachers, teachers and writers have missed this vital second ingredient in the story, neglecting the context in full and shoving Christ into a corner that He simply isn’t in as the finger-pointer who wants us to “treat everyone better or else.”


What a mistake

What to do next?

S. Michael Houdmann of presents a good case for the full meaning of the story in that it’s a 3 fold event:

“Jesus is telling us to follow the Samaritan’s example in our own conduct; i.e., we are to show compassion and love for those we encounter in our everyday activities. We are to love others (vs. 27) regardless of their race or religion; the criterion is need. If they need and we have the supply, then we are to give generously and freely, without expectation of return. This is an impossible obligation for the lawyer, and for us. We cannot always keep the law because of our human condition; our heart and desires are mostly of self and selfishness. When left to our own, we do the wrong thing, failing to meet the law. We can hope that the lawyer saw this and came to the realisation that there was nothing he could do to justify himself, that he needed a personal saviour to atone for his lack of ability to save himself from his sins. Thus, the lessons of the Parable of the Good Samaritan are three-fold: (1) we are to set aside our prejudice and show love and compassion for others. (2) Our neighbour is anyone we encounter; we are all creatures of the creator and we are to love all of mankind as Jesus has taught. (3) Keeping the law in its entirety with the intent to save ourselves is an impossible task; we need a saviour, and this is Jesus.”

There’s a person bleeding and helpless here – that’s us

There certainly are lessons in the story about treating others well, but to then throw the weighty lump of legalism onto a congregation that they’re not living up to God’s best if they fail to love their neighbour this way is hurtful – because everybody falls short every day. That’s why they’re to lean completely on the everlasting arms of Jesus and daily trust His perfect love to be shown through us where we can, and to rest in that.

This eisogesis plays havoc when we apply the same exact interpretation of this parable – that we’re the perfectly loving, self-sacrificing Samaritan, into every other hero Bible story such as Jonah, Noah, Joseph, David and Gideon. We are doing ourselves a legalistic disservice and ripping Jesus from the pages of the scriptures one story at a time when He’s meant to be the focus of the entire book! Without Christ in these stories in His right location, we literally have a book of 66 books all written about how great we are as people at keeping God’s law, obeying perfectly and keeping all of His commandments right up until Jesus returns to find that everything was fine all along. That’s a real tragedy.


There is such a sweet fellowship at church. It can come from no other place. The gathering together of the saints on Sundays is a sweet, beautiful event where people can talk about their struggles, joys, victories, witnessing encounters, home life, prayers, hopes and dreams. All because we have been united by Christ to God through His blood. This is an extremely important event filled with many joys. All manner of races, people groups and skin colours attend, yet they’re all united under the saving grace of our Lord Jesus Christ.

But sometimes it’s hard to get to. In fact, if you have children… small children… it’s one of the most tiring days of the week purely because of the beforehand work that goes into getting to a service. That being said, it’s always worth it. Sometimes the best services attended have been those where we have struggled ten fold to get the kids dressed, washed, cleaned, ready for the car (then the seat belt exercise) to get to church. After this ordeal and ten tantrums we arrive tired, drained, filled with emotion and ready to sit down with our arms folded. But as soon as we shake hands with our pastors kids, the families that attend and our pastor – this all falls by the wayside to Christian fellowship and love.

lets go

I’ve had some of the best conversations with our pastor about doctrine, family, theology, church practices and evangelism over a coffee after these long, hard mornings of getting ready. And they stick in my mind for a long time afterwards, and always give me something to think about, some encouragement, some training or some sharpening.

So this is why I believe the Bible stresses not to “forsake the gathering together of yourselves:

“Let us hold resolutely to the hope we confess, for He who promised is faithful. 24And let us consider how to spur one another on to love and good deeds. 25Let us not neglect meeting together, as some have made a habit, but let us encourage one another, and all the more as you see the Day approaching.” Hebrews 10:23-25

This powerful gathering that surpasses all others is that it is done in reverence of God’s redeeming work, and His Holy Word as it’s preached faithfully:

    “Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly, teaching and admonishing one another in all wisdom, singing psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, with thankfulness in your hearts to God.” Colossians 3:16

This is why we sing reverent songs to God, not out of performance to please Him but out of heartfelt gratitude for having Him save us from death, hell and the eternal consequences of sin. We are redeemed people, bought with the precious blood of Jesus. This is reason to celebrate in a way that honours God. Not in a chaotic, irreverent flashy show of pure emotion, but a deeply joyous, humble, meaningful celebration. This is why church is so, so good – even when the morning has been the absolute worst.

spurgeon church

Charles Spurgeon preaching in the Music Hall in the Royal Surrey Gardens

In Christ,




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animal pain

Tonight I have acute back pain. I work in aged care so there are multitudes of ways I could have obtained pain in my lower back. But God is able to heal. I know this because He has healed people I know from illnesses, cancer, aches and pains. So I pray that He removes the pain. He says we should ask Him for what we need according to His will, so I do. But I also know that God has not promised complete redemption of my body until that day when I’m in heaven. Or He calls me there with those who have repented and trusted in Jesus for salvation. This has been the healing thought of Christians for centuries, at least those with a robust understanding of God’s plan to redeem earth from its current cursed state, that will continue regardless of what any preacher, healer or charlatan may say in a pulpit.

God has always been involved in the affairs of man, but also sovereignly allowed difficulties, accidents, medical trauma and pain because of reasons we’ll never know until He reveals it when we meet Him again. One of the greatest scriptures on this issue is found in Romans 8:18

18 For I consider that the sufferings of this present time are not worth comparing with the glory that is to be revealed to us. (ESV)


Though we may suffer in all manner of ways on earth emotionally, physically and perhaps through persecution and attacks as we’ve seen in Europe these past few months; take heart! God has overcome the world, and has prepared a place for us with no more suffering that is an eternal reward for trusting Him fully in this life. Nothing… absolutely nothing, whether famine, shame, fear, suffering, death or even any manner of evil that we experience on this earth can compare to the weight of glory coming when we get to heaven.

Pastors, teachers, Mums and Dad’s: preach this to your kids and congregations! Suffering will occur here, because earth is under a restrained curse held in effect by God for a momentary time. One day this earth will melt like wax, and a new heavens and earth will be in its place. This is our eternal hope! Jesus has overcome this evil age. His death, suffering and resurrection have overcome death and the grave.







What are our priorities as Christian Dad’s and men? Are they merely to provide money and give hugs and kisses to our kids at bedtime, or do they go much, much deeper? S. Michael Houdmann from gives us some insightful wisdom into this matter:

“The proper perspective for this leadership comes from Ephesians 5:25–32. The goal of every believer’s life is to become more and more like Christ (Romans 8:29). For men in their God-given role, this means leading and loving their wives in the same way Christ loved the church: sacrificially (Ephesians 5:2), through service (John 13:14–15), and in selfless love (Ephesians 5:28). Just as the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit are equal yet serve different roles, so, too, can men and women be equal in value and in spiritual worth yet have different roles to play.

The fundamental requirement for biblical manhood is a proper relationship with God (Micah 6:8). This informs and empowers every other responsibility a man has in his life. Humility means an acknowledgement of his imperfection (Romans 3:23), acceptance of Christ for salvation (2 Peter 3:9), and a continual sense of dependence on God (1 Peter 5:7; Hebrews 13:15). A godly man will study, learn, and understand the will of God (Matthew 6:33; Romans 12:2) through the Word of God (Hebrews 4:12). This gives him the tools to meet all of his other obligations; it does not automatically make his life biblically sound (1 Corinthians 3:2).”Got questions ministries, 2016 “What is biblical manhood?” viewed June 29, 2016 <;.


There are fundamental differences between male responsibilities and female responsibilities in marriage and Christian life. These are God-given and essential for Christian witness, as well as complementary male and female relationships as a whole.

I think that humility and having a servant attitude around the home and our spouses helps greatly in the area of male responsibility. I know that around our home if I refuse to help my wife with anything to do with cleaning, cooking, children or home education that I am going to burn her out with my ignorance of her need. The same applies to spiritual leadership. If I let my wife take the lead in spiritual direction of the home, then I’m neglecting my God given role as male and husband to lead our family to the point of trusting Christ for salvation with our kids, and completely leaving Peta in the dark spiritually as to where our family is heading, what we believe and how we are going to present Jesus Christ to this dying world. We work on family devotions together, but ultimately I’m responsible for the leading of this event in the home. It is an office given to males in the church structure itself as well as the home. A Godly man will trust Christ, be humble, submit to God, faithfully preach the word to his family & wife, and ultimately lead his children to Christ in this sense. This is a huge, terrifying responsibility.


Scripture teaches that a man’s backbone will be his ability to interpret scripture well, guide his family well by persistently reading scripture to his kids and wife together, will be strong, lead well, be courageous in standing for Christ in a dying world, and that he will love his wife with a sacrificial, self-denying love as Jesus did for the church. A godly man will acknowledge his failings and apologise to his wife and children when he makes a mistake or is hot-headed or arrogant, and will boldly confess his weakness and inability to do anything well without Christ as the head.

Ultimately our priority lies with leading the family with scripture soaked family worship, having a continual self-denial (especially when it’s perceived as being “well deserved rest”) and a love for spiritual truth, which is only found in the Holy Scriptures!

A Godly husband and father will earn a respectable income (it does not have to have 6 figures), listen to his wife when she’s wanting to unload, be there to support her, love his children with disciplinary and open love, yet firmly stand strong when temptations to become lazy and flat present themselves. This happens often!

But all of this is an ideal, and hard to do when you’ve got responsibilities, a mortgage, a car loan and have had no sleep for 6 months. There is simply a flesh nature that wants to undo all of the responsible work done daily as a husband and Dad. But the anchor that holds all of it down is that knowledge of the truth that Jesus Christ came to seek and save the lost, and our families are in need of that message presented as often as possible.

Our priorities are to preach to our mini-congregations of children, and to love and lead our wives with strength and reliance on God’s word alone for life and practice.

Charles Haddon Spurgeon is onto something when he quotes about growing a beard, but is more astute when he said:

“Train up a child in the way he should go – but be sure you go that way yourself.”